Cafeteria Faith: Pavska Badasie in thought

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Cafeteria Faith

Coming from a “multi-faith” home myself. I don’t consider myself a lost soul. I was raised to respect and understand all faiths and beliefs, especially unfamiliar customs and traditions. Unfortunately, I came from the “but why?” generation where I questioned everything and wouldn’t let go until I accepted a rational explanation, but my dad taught me, that there are things in life that you just can’t explain. You just do them.


I don’t believe that religion came from the holy books. I believe that it is a word concocted by man to  create tribes, thus increasing power. After all is that not what religion seeks to do in this modern age? It’s all about the numbers. I refuse to be a number, or be defined and packaged in a neat little box. Don’t get me wrong. I believe in a supernatural being, and I am very spiritual but when it comes to religion, my downfall is being too scientific in thinking. Knowledge is power and I take it literally. When our forefathers came to South Africa. Many of their surnames were changed mostly due to spelling and communication errors, but that set the ball rolling for change. These days, Inter-marriages occur between Christian, Hindu and Muslims. One can no longer judge a person’s religious background by their name alone. They say that “love is blind, marriage is an eye opener” How very true!

When people fall in love and decide to get married. Religion seems to be on the back burner, as there is some agreement as to what belief system will be followed post marriage. It is common practice for married couples these days to follow their own belief system while making both cultures work for the sake of the marriage – more so, the extended families. Take famous Bollywood star ShahRukh Khan for example who is Muslim. His wife is Hindu but their children are raised in both faiths and wait for it! – Go to a Catholic school.

So if he can make it work then why can’t we? I think that those people who are exposed to multi cultural beliefs at the end of the day, are more knowledgeable about the world and the people that live in it. The worst thing that a parent can do is to shroud their children in a microcosm with only one belief system. That very child will grow up to be an adult in a cut-throat existence, and it will be very hard for that adult to now adapt to the modern multi-cultural world. I’m not saying give up on religion. I’m merely saying be more open-minded and learn something new. Be tolerant.  There’s nothing wrong with respectfully questioning why we do things. The old saying “because our grandparents did it” is no longer a suitable answer.

As people are not finding common ground with religion, they are migrating more towards a more holistic, spiritual lifestyle. At the end of the day, if you are a good person, do good deeds, respect your fellow man and you are honest. Is this not the same criteria in all religions that would take you to God?

PAVSKA BADASIE is one of Indianspice’s columnists who’s keen eye on Bollywood has given her the notorious status of Miss Bollywood, known to Shah Rukh as the girl who camped outside his home.


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