Sexolve is equal rights activist Harish Iyer’s Q&A space on FIT.
If you have any problems, doubts or queries regarding sex, sexuality or your relationship, which you can’t seem to deal with, or need some advice, answers or just someone to hear you out – write in to Harish Iyer, and he’ll try and ‘sexolve’ it for you. Drop in a mail to email@example.com
‘My Wife Prefers Oral Sex’
I am a 37-year-old married man. I wanted to share that our married life is wonderful but for sex. I have always been a fan of intercourse, however, my wife is satisfied with oral sex. She particularly gets excited with oral fondling of breasts. How do I handle this situation?
Dear Worried Husband,
Thank you for sharing this private part of your life with me. I understand that sexual chemistry is an integral part of a couples life, but it is also an area that needs immense amount of patience and understanding. Did you find out what is it that is particularly bothering her about intercourse? Maybe you should do that if you have not done that yet.
Check with her, understand her, have an open conversation about sex, not one that is high on emotions. You could then together find solutions that could be mutually helpful for both of you.
There is nothing in the world that cannot be solved by reaching out to each other and speaking out.
(The text and the location has been edited to protect the identity of the people. You can send in your questions to firstname.lastname@example.org)
(Harish Iyer is an equal rights activist working for the rights of the LGBT community, women, children and animals.)