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Dear Rainbow Man,

I am a 55 year old man and my wife is 52. We have been happily married and also have been enjoying a very fulfilling sex life. The issue is not about sex, but a lot of it. I mean, my wife has too much appetite for sex. She used to want it, once or thrice a day, some days, now she wants it to happen every day. It is scary, because I am unable to match her desires. I am unable to tell her because it feels way too much to tell her anything. Also, I fear what would she think of me. I mean, I feel a little awkward. Do let me know what I should do. Is it odd that at the age when we retire we are still “active”?

Regards,

Young-at-heart

Dear Young-at-heart,

Thank you for writing in. It gives me pleasure to read that you are having a wonderful relationship with your partner. There is no reason why you should feel guilty about it. There needn’t be any retirement age for love. Making love is just a part of love.

I am sure you would agree that there is always an unruly duet when two hearts sing the same song, but in different tunes.

I wonder why we get silences to speak louder than what words could express. There could come a time, when you would be so quiet about being uninterested, that your actions would speak. And in my honest opinion, we shouldn’t let actions speak when words could bridge gaps. Please don’t let gaps get any wider.

Let us speak to the ones we love about what comforts us, let us also not forget to express our disinterests and discomforts.

Those who love us, will understand. Maybe they would take time, but they would need more conversations, more persuasions, more explanations of the present situation, but they would understand eventually or at least, accept the fact that there are differences in appetite for sex here.

Please speak up. Please express.

Love,

RainbowMan

P.S. Conversations open the possibility of you being led on to a better road. Staying quiet doesn’t change your route.

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