Former journalist Vanessa Govender has finally revealed the name of the abuser who she wrote of in her memoir, ‘Beaten but not Broken.’ The book launched in September 2018, narrates her five-year relationship with the former Lotus FM jock. Govender’s book is a painful, yet powerful read about gender-based violence where the first 100 pages of the book go into the finer detail, of a series of horrific incidents of sexual assault, mental abuse and violence, that she had endured.
Govender’s revelation comes after she had been encouraged by the bravery of model, Lerato Moloi who in a statement had also named her abuser, last week. At a virtual gathering titled GBV and the law hosted by Jacana Media and the Tears Foundation, Govender named Fahim Jamadar as her abuser. “It was a deliberate decision not to name him in the book. I don’t give him the luxury or benefit of keeping him anonymous anymore. I’ve been afraid of saying that name. It’s not my fear, not my shame. I’m done with that.”
Govender at the virtual gathering further added, “I owe myself. I’ve been trapped by not saying this God-forsaken name. It’s not my job to protect you anymore,” she said as she broke down. Govender explained that despite allegations being levelled again him, Jamadar has returned to the airwaves
Jamadar speaking about Govender’s book has previously denied the claims made by Govender, saying the sources must have been “coaxed”.
Jamadar was fired from Lotus in July 2002 for not following on-air procedures, he returned to the station in December 2004 until 2014. He started at the station in October 1998 and Govender began her tenure late in 1999. “We were friends but we weren’t in a romantic relationship … I have not read the book, but from what I have heard about it, she is definitely not speaking about me as what was said to me never transpired … She apparently makes reference to things that transpired at the SABC and I was not there from 2002 to 2004 so was not privy to what was happening.”
The former Lotus FM radio jock now at Radio Al-Ansaar was also embroiled in another incident where was accused of assaulting, harassing and distributing sexually explicit videos of a former Lotus FM radio jock, Mishka Gounden. The charges were eventually withdrawn in the first week of the trial.
Source inputs: Sunday World
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