In the month of August which is dedicated to women, a 14-year-old teenager has spoken out against her sex pest grandfather. The Umhlatuzana teenager intends seeking justice for herself and her mother who have been victims of abuse, each in their childhood years at their family home in Isipingo, south of Durban. According to a report by the Chatsworth Rising Sun newspaper, a case was opened against the 68-year-old grandfather had fallen through due to a lack of evidence.
The 14-year-old has since been treated by a forensic psychologist who has assisted in reopening the case. The child has reportedly found herself battling her trauma with self-harm by inflicting cuts on her thighs and wrists or resorting to self-medication.
“I remember being alone with him all the time and he would force me onto the bed and touch me. I was scared and could not fight him off. I can’t remember how long it lasted and lost count of the number of times he did it because I could not even count much then. I realised what had happened and how bad it was when I was about 11-years-old. A big part of our syllabus was abuse. I then began using the internet to find out more about the rights of a child and the violations of those rights,” said the child speaking to the Chatsworth Rising Sun.
The mother speaks
“When Diana was little, I had allowed her to stay with my mum at her house because she loved playing with my nephew. By that time, I believed that my father had changed after my mother had given him a warning when he inappropriately touched me when I was about eight-years-old. This was so many years later and I had deeply buried the scars of my childhood while I grew up hating my father, who was always drunk or high while my mother, who was a teacher and a Vedic priest and was well-known in the area, struggled to make ends meet in the household and keep up their image to the community. My father was a community policing forum founder at the time and my mother stated that nobody will ever believe me so I must ‘shut up about it’. I was now a teacher by profession and had healed from my painful childhood so when my mum drove Diana to me and told me that she had stopped the alleged abuse from happening, I never sent her back,” she commented.
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Source: Rising Sun Chatsworth
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